With engagements rapidly on the rise it’s time to talk gifts and expectations of gifts. It’s highly likely that many couples tying the knot have been together for a while, probably live together and perhaps already have everything they need, so what’s the protocol for gifts when it comes to the engagement?
Is a Gift Necessary?
Traditionally gifts are given at the wedding, but let’s face it, times are changing and its becoming more common that gifts are given at the engagement. The couple shouldn’t assume everyone will bring a present and if you are not sure about their expectations, talk to other guests to see what the general feel is or potentially split the cost of a shared gift between friends. Considering we have waited so long for Marriage Equality, l say, why the hell not give a gift and share in the happiness and smiles that it brings to your friend’s faces.
How Much Should l Spend?
When considering an amount for an engagement gift remember this is one of two wedding-related gifts, so consider how much you would be spending overall. The engagement gift is something that should be far less than the actual wedding gift, so it might be worth considering how much you would spend on the wedding gift and spend a quarter on the engagement gift.
If they are a long-term couple it would be worth considering a monetary gift or a bottle of the most fabulous champagne or sparkling you can find. In the past, it has been traditional to gift toasting flutes but after last weekend’s Mardi Gras toast-a-thon that went on for several hours, my cupboards are overflowing with flutes, so flutes may not be the most suitable gift! However, the glitter suction pack for their Dyson may be the way to go.
What Feels Right to You?
When thinking about what amount you are happy to spend you need to consider how close you are to the couple. If you are an acquaintance you probably don’t need to get a gift or consider a small token gift, but if you are very close, then it would be worth splashing out a little and possibly avoiding an uncomfortable situation upon arrival.
Within a wedding invitation you may find a wishing well card which is not a common practice. However, if you receive one just think of this as an easier way for guests to contribute (if they choose to) and the couple can purchase something they really want.
+ Bunnings certificate
Still not sure? ... then a Bunnings gift certificate will probably be a good bet for any lesbian couple ;-)